Author : Susan Russo
"When a deep injury is done to us, we never recover
until we forgive." -Alan PatonAs you are going through the various stages of healing yourself
after the end of a relationship; many people stumble when trying
to get through this very crucial stage: Learning to forgive.Depending on your circumstances, forgiveness may seem impossible
to you right now. You've probably endured a lot of heartache and
pain while going through this process and the blame and or guilt
that you may be experiencing can keep you stuck from moving forward.Whether you blame the other person or have guilt and you beat
yourself up over it, learning to forgive will put you on the right path.
It will be a gift you give to yourself.Even though you may not feel capable of forgiveness right now; the
sooner you do this...the sooner you will...let go for good. You have to
learn how to forgive the other person. But...first...you have to forgive
yourself!If you've made mistakes, forgive yourself and go on. There is nothing
you can do now to change the past, but you can affect your future.Forgiving yourself takes the pressure off of you for not being perfect.
And, it gets rid of guilt. You must learn to forgive yourself before you
can forgive others.We are all on a journey through life. Sometimes we make mistakes, which
is part of a normal process on this journey. The mistakes that we make can result in
painful experiences; these are the "lessons of life." But, it is through
these trials that we learn the most.The key is learning something from what has caused you pain so as not
to repeat the same mistakes again. Walk away from this situation with
the knowledge that you are stronger and smarter. Forgiving will open that door.Second, forgive him or her. If you don't, you will be holding onto the past.
You may carry anger and resentment around with you which will hurt you...more than them.Harboring negative emotions can make you bitter and resentful. It can
and will permeate all areas of your life and it makes it more difficult
to enjoy today.Not forgiving keeps you trapped exactly where you don't want to be...
holding onto memories of the past. Every time you begin to think
of this person; what they did or didn't do, what you said or didn't say,
consciously release them from your mind. Let these thoughts go and
fill your mind with thoughts of goodness and the things that you
are looking forward to experiencing in your life.Gaining control of your thoughts, releasing all of the negative
memories and releasing all of the imagined confrontations you could
have with this person will be the beginning of letting go of what is
behind you and moving on to a better future.You can't change the past but you can make a significant difference
in how you approach what's ahead of you. Stay focused on the positive.
Stay focused on what you want, not on what you had that didn't work.Once you find forgiveness you will regain control of you life. It's your choice!Read more about it at: http://www.whystay.comSusan Russo is the President of Pinnacle Thought Inc. Publisher for books and resources which provide inspiration, self-empowerment and the tools and strategies to help move you toward personal success and fulfillment. She is editor of "You've Got Power"
ezine and author of "There Is Life After What's-His-Name.
Keyword : relationships, love, break-up, heartache, divorce, boyfriend, girlfriend, moving on, healing hearts
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